More dreams than time? This story shows you the methods I use to make them come true anyway.

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You’ve probably heard the jokes about how many people of a certain group it takes to change a light bulb. Usually it reads like this:

“How many managers does it take to change a light bulb?
Three. One to get the bulb and two to get the phone number to dial one of their subordinates to actually change it.”

With Germans, it reads like this:

And since I’m German, I think that qualifies me to share my best productivity tips with…

Answer just one question to know what to do in any situation.

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Sometimes I get desperate about decisions.

Then I wish I had someone to tell me what to do. Someone who knows what is right for me and has only the best intentions.

Let’s face reality. As close as our relationships with family, friends, and partners may be, no one can always play that role perfectly for us. Everyone has their own burdens to carry and their own issues that affect their actions.

That’s why this story shows you how to become your own perfect coach.


Coaching is built on the concept that we ourselves know what is best for us…

A story of falling, getting up, and (not) buying shoes

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There were holes.

Not to be overlooked, big, gaping holes in my old sneakers. No help, I had to replace them. That was pretty much a year and a half ago.

I wandered from shoe store to shoe store and clicked through various online outlets. But there was nothing. Not anything I was satisfied with. Too clunky, too delicate, too colorful, or too expensive. I spent hours searching.

Yet, I actually knew what I wanted. These sneakers. These slim but well-cushioned sneakers in light gray with pink applications. They were a perfect fit. But they cost $95.

The money I would have had…

7 things that matter in running and in life

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I hate jogging.

I’m not one of those people who wake up in the morning craving to do sport. Don’t get me wrong, I do exercise. But I have absolutely no desire to do it. And yet I ran my first half marathon last summer.

For many athletic people, a half marathon is no big deal. But for at least as many, it’s an unattainable goal. I thought for a long time that I belonged to the second group. Nevertheless, I dared to do it and succeeded. I grew physically but also mentally.

Long-distance running is a beautiful metaphor from…

Turn your negative feelings into energy and become even better.

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That might be pathetic — but if we’re honest, that phrase sounds familiar, doesn’t it?

Okay, “destroyed” sounds more like a wrecking ball, but I think we can agree that some people with their harmful behavior affect our lives more than we would like.

In this story, I want to share with you how I turned my desperation into positive energy and action. This is not about abuse or any other drama, but an everyday story that can happen to any of us. It is about the people who treat us unfairly and make us angry…

Do you know what control has to do with satisfaction, mental health and flirting? This story gives you the answers.

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Today it’s getting personal: This is a story about a real incident of failed social media flirting that motivated me to write about the power of control and responsibility. You’ll find out what failed flirting has to do with mental health and why sometimes it can make sense to just let the monkeys be monkeys.

We talk about responsibility, control, depression and self-care. And what the monkeys have to do with it.

What do we Learn from Flirting? A Lesson in Responsibility.

Let’s start with an example:

This week on social media, some guy wrote under one of my tweets how beautiful, intelligent and talented I was. We didn’t know…

Strategies that help you become more successful and focused — scientifically approved

There is almost as much advice on goal setting as there are goals. Everyone says something different. Some swear by their importance. Others demonize them. But which of the advice really helps?

Let’s bring scientifically proven clarity to the self-improvement industry’s favorite topic.

We will 1. look at the basic principles of goal setting, 2. learn about stumbling blocks to your goals, and 3. highlight some advanced tips for goal setting and 4. discuss the influences of goals on your well-being.

Lastly, there will be some advice for goal setting as a leader, teacher, or parent.

1. Main Principles of Goal Setting

You probably know the…

This is what a job must offer you to be satisfied with it

It’s not you, it’s me. Wrong — sometimes it is up to the other party, in this case the job. This story will show you 5+1 key factors to watch out for to be happy in your job in the long run.

Of course, it is also up to you whether you will be happy or not (that will be the subject of another story). But not exclusively. So, sit back and relax and find out what a job has to offer to make you happy.

First of all, I know that many people don’t have a choice about which…

5 Signs to help you detect that your boss is toxic — and what is left for you to do

Let’s be clear: The best decision I made last year was to quit my job. In the middle of the Covid-19 pandemic. Without a plan B. But anything is better than letting your boss destroy you from the inside.

This story is meant to show you how to detect if your boss is a toxic leader and poisoning you internally. Plus, solutions for escaping the toxic trap.

What are toxic leaders actually? They are destructive, abusive, and ineffective. …

You think being unpunctual as a boss is no big deal? Then you haven’t considered these short-, medium- and long-term effects.

Relax: Being late once in a while happens to all of us. It’s perfectly normal and in the vast majority of cases not a problem at all. What I’m talking about here is being chronically late and making your colleagues wait again and again, often for much longer than the classic “5 minutes late”.

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That doesn’t apply to you? Feel free to mentally replace the “being late” example with one of your little quirks. Do you, for example, become unfriendly when you’re stressed or do you regularly hang around the coffee machine unmotivated? Then this text is for you, too.

Larissa Marie Schwarz

Master Psychologist. Can’t read minds. Has no pills for you either. But if you like, follow me for business psycho content — with character and often humor.

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